It’s never nice to hear that a girl you like has met someone else.
Usually, you’ll get a feeling that something is off before you hear anything definite.
Maybe you’ve noticed that she has been pulling back a bit recently.
After all, if you two were spending every weekend together and she’s suddenly never available anymore, something must have changed right?
Whatever the circumstances, don’t answer in haste. Take your time figuring out what you feel. Then ask yourself what the main message you’d like to communicate to her is.
What that message is will depend on your relationship.
If you were exclusive and thought she would be your girlfriend soon, you’ll be more upset than if you have just been hanging out casually.
If you’re not quite sure what you feel, read through this list of sample replies to a girl telling you she’s seeing someone.
You might find a reaction that feels just right.
42 brilliant responses to a girl saying she’s seeing someone
- No problem. I can’t lie, I thought you might have met someone else.
- Thanks for letting me know, I appreciate your honesty.
- No hard feelings. I wish you the best!
- Oh, I’m happy for you. It was a pleasure going out for dinner last weekend. If you’re in the market for a friend, I’d really like to be considered.
- All good. I appreciate the heads up.
- I’ve also been talking to someone else, so I’m glad we’re on the same page about everything.
- Oh okay, no worries. Well, if it doesn’t work out, you know where I am.
- Thanks for telling me. I hope you two are happy together.
- I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you and only have nice things to say about you. All the best for the future.
- As long as he’s worthy of you, that’s all I care about.
- I hope he or she knows how lucky they are.
- I suspected something had changed between us.
- Can I ask when you met?
- That’s a shame, I thought we had what it takes to go the distance.
- I wish you had told me earlier. I feel like a bit of a fool.
- Can I ask why you didn’t want to give us a real shot?
- I can’t pretend I’m not hurt.
- Given how close we got, I feel like you owe me an explanation of what happened.
- I thought we had agreed to be exclusive.
- That’s really disappointing.
- I feel used and I don’t think our friendship will survive this.
- Where on earth did you find someone better looking than me?!
- Oh well, I guess it’s time to re-download Tinder.
- Your time management must be exceptional.
- I’ll survive somehow.
- Great, I’ve always wanted a polyamorous relationship. Can’t wait to meet him!
- Oh, thank God.
- You may be seeing someone new but are you seeing what you’ll be missing?
- You don’t have a sister or a cousin with lower standards, do you?
- That’s okay, I’ve always wanted to be the one who got away.
- Well, it’s a good thing I have thick skin.
- I think you’re making a mistake.
- One day you’ll realize that I would have been the better option.
- How can I change your mind?
- Will he be able to treat as well as I do?
- Are you sure he can handle you?
- Your loss.
- That’s alright. I’ll meet the woman who is meant for me eventually.
- At the end of the day, you’re doing me a favor.
- I know my own worth, so I’m not offended.
- I’ve already moved on, so no hard feelings.
Excellent responses to a girl saying she has met someone else
The early stages of dating are the most exciting, but they’re also the least secure.
There’s no rulebook for the game of love, and people have different expectations about loyalty and exclusivity.
There are innumerable situations in which you might be wondering where you stand with a girl.
Maybe you managed to get a date on Tinder and things went well.
However, you haven’t heard from her since and are now wondering where things stand. Or maybe you’ve been on five or six dates with a girl you met at a bar, and you thought things were moving toward a serious relationship.
Whatever the circumstances, your pride will probably be at least a little bit bruised.
Depending on how close the two of you were and how much you value loyalty, you might feel pretty unphased or seriously hurt.
If the main message you want to convey is that you don’t hold a grudge and wish her the best, you can send one of these sample texts.
1. No problem. I can’t lie, I thought you might have met someone else.
Starting your message with “no problem,” is a good way to communicate that there are no hard feelings.
If you suspected that the girl you were seeing had moved on before she told you, you can tell her that you had a hunch something had changed.
Let her know she hasn’t played you for a fool and that you were aware of more than she thought you were with this text.
2. Thanks for letting me know, I appreciate your honesty.
This simple, clear response leaves no room for misunderstanding.
Even if you feel hurt that a girl has met someone else and is moving on, you might not want to make a big deal of it.
Instead of trying to convince someone to date you, you’ll be taking the high road with this mature message.
3. No hard feelings. I wish you the best!
If your life is a drama-free zone, you can keep it that way with this hyper-clear text.
When a girl you were getting to know kills off the potential for future dates by telling you she’s taken, you can avoid any unnecessary arguments by saying, “No hard feelings.”
At the end of the day, if she’s telling you that she has met someone else, she’s already made up her mind about what she wants.
There’s no point trying to change her mind. It’s best to accept your fate, make nice, and move on.
4. Oh, I’m happy for you. It was a pleasure going out for dinner last weekend. If you’re in the market for a friend, I’d really like to be considered.
It’s entirely possible that you feel relieved instead of sad that a girl you were seeing has met someone else.
Maybe you’ve been trying to come up with ways to friendzone someone over text and couldn’t identify a good way to phrase “I’m not feeling it.”
If that sounds like you, you can send this message to a girl who tells you she’s moved on. Extending the hand of friendship when a situation-ship breaks down is always a nice touch.
5. All good. I appreciate the heads up.
You don’t have to say much when someone you’ve been seeing tells you that they’ve met someone else.
All you really need to do is acknowledge their message.
This simple assurance that things are all sorted out between you is more than enough.
6. I’ve also been talking to someone else, so I’m glad we’re on the same page about everything.
Is your pride insisting that you let the girl you’re talking to know that she isn’t the only one who has landed someone else?
If so, this is an ideal way to assert that you are also more than capable of drawing interest on the dating scene.
You can cover the tracks of your petty need to get even by making it sound as though you just wanted her to know that you are on the same page.
7. Oh okay, no worries. Well, if it doesn’t work out, you know where I am.
Maybe you aren’t upset that a girl has called it off but would still be open to revisiting things if she changed her mind.
If you’re the type of guy who doesn’t mind being a rebound, you can use this text to throw your hat in the ring for consideration at some point down the line.
8. Thanks for telling me. I hope you two are happy together.
There is still plenty of time for you to get a date worth keeping, so you don’t have to try to keep something alive if it isn’t working.
This is a gracious way to let a girl go when she’s decided she’d be happier with someone else.
9. I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you and only have nice things to say about you. All the best for the future.
Dating is confusing and it’s only natural that romantic signals get crossed.
If you met up for a dinner with a girl and all saw all the signs that a date went well, you might not understand why she has fallen for someone else. Whatever you do, try to be compassionate, both to her and to yourself.
The heart wants what it wants and often the reasons are obscure to us.
Instead of feeling resentful of the girl you were dating because she has found love, you can show your maturity with this understanding response to a rejection text.
10. As long as he’s worthy of you, that’s all I care about.
If you seriously care about a girl and have her best interests at heart, send her this sweet message when she tells you she’s met someone new.
11. I hope he or she knows how lucky they are.
This text is complimentary while also giving the girl you are talking to your blessing to follow her heart and move on.
Proving that you are a genuinely decent guy will make her think back on your time together warmly. And who knows, if things don’t work out with her new flame, you may find yourself acting like a gentleman on a date across the table from her again.
Great ways to respond to a girl saying she’s seeing someone if you’re hurt
If you think the sample responses in the previous section were all extremely generous and forgiving, you might be feeling too hurt to be diplomatic.
And that’s your right. After all, if a girl has taken advantage of your good nature and has led you on, you don’t have to make her feel better about hurting you.
The main thing is not to say something harsh in anger that you’ll end up regretting. You don’t want to find yourself having to come up with things to text a girl who is mad at you.
Instead, keep your cool and calmly let her know how she’s made you feel.
Not sure what the best way to go about this is? Check out these suggestions for texts to send a girl when she has met someone else.
12. I suspected something had changed between us.
If you aren’t down to send off a simple “no problem” text and be done with it, you can encourage a girl to have a proper conversation with this message.
When a girl tells you she’s moved on and has met someone else, you can instigate a serious discussion by showing her that you weren’t naïve to what was happening.
When a girl hears that you knew something was off between you two, she’ll probably want to know what tipped you off. Plus, chances are she’ll feel guilty and will want to say sorry.
Then it’s up to you to decide how to reply to an apology when you’re still hurt.
13. Can I ask when you met?
If you want to check whether a girl’s timeline adds up, you can make her squirm by asking when she met her new squeeze.
If there was crossover between the time you were seeing her and when she became involved with her new love interest, you have a right to be mad.
Whether or not you get an honest reply to this question, the girl you’re seeing will know you’re upset. Hopefully, she’ll understand that she should take greater care with people’s feelings in the future.
14. That’s a shame, I thought we had what it takes to go the distance.
If you started wondering how long to date before marriage the minute you met a girl, you’ll probably be seriously disappointed to hear that she has met someone else.
This message is the perfect way to let her know that you were in it for the long haul.
She may not have realized how serious you were about her, so this text may be the wake-up call she needs when it comes to considering other people’s feelings.
15. I wish you had told me earlier. I feel like a bit of a fool.
Unfortunately, feeling messed around by the people we date is not an uncommon thing. However, that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t stand up for ourselves when it happens.
Let a girl know that you feel like the wool has been pulled over your eyes with this crystal-clear message.
16. Can I ask why you didn’t want to give us a real shot?
Feedback is always a good thing. In both a professional setting and in your personal relationships, hearing what others think you could do better is a surefire way to trigger self-improvement.
When things have already fizzled out and are unlikely to be rekindled, make sure you take what you can get from the situation.
If all you end up with is a lesson about how to date better, that’s plenty! Heck, most people get a lot less from an unsuccessful date.
17. I can’t pretend I’m not hurt.
If you don’t really know what you want to say but feel like it’s important to be honest about how a girl’s words have affected you, send her this concise message.
However she told you that she has moved on with someone else, you can shoot back this quick text that lets her know she’s done damage.
Hopefully seeing a notification pop up on her phone screen with this message will clarify to her that she can’t treat people the way she has treated you.
Truth hurts sometimes, but you deserve the closure a message like this brings.
18. Given how close we got, I feel like you owe me an explanation of what happened.
If you were basically already in a relationship with a girl and she texts you that she’s met someone else, you can respond by asking for a more detailed explanation.
You deserve to know what has happened.
19. I thought we had agreed to be exclusive.
If you had “the chat” with a girl and you both agreed you wouldn’t see other people, you will understandably be hurt to hear that she’s gone back on her word.
However, instead of getting frustrated and spelling out how unfair she’s been, you can achieve the same effect with this simple statement of fact.
She’ll know exactly what you’re getting at.
20. That’s really disappointing.
When someone else creates a problem, it isn’t your responsibility to solve it. You don’t have to console someone who is breaking your heart or reassure them that everything is forgiven.
You can simply express how it has made you feel. Once you’ve done this, the ball is in her court.
21. I feel used and I don’t think our friendship will survive this.
Sometimes blurring the lines between being friends and being more than friends can lead to wonderful experiences.
However, the fact that you’ve complicated your dynamic is sure to leave a mark on your friendship when things end.
If you think your line-blurring has done irreparable damage, this is a good message to send a former friend who has hurt you by treating you carelessly.
Did you used to regularly respond to “I love you” from your friend and now feel like that would be all kinds of awkward? If so, you probably know that things will never go back to how they were.
Instead of causing yourself more pain, use this message to cut things off.
Funny responses to a girl telling you she’s dating someone else
Humor is wonderfully versatile. It can serve as a coping mechanism or a defense mechanism and allows us to deal with emotions that would otherwise threaten to overwhelm us.
If you prefer to laugh things off than to become overly sincere about them, you can send one of these funny responses when a girl tells you she’s met someone else.
Whether you can actually see the humorous side of the situation or are simply using jokes to fend off the tears, these messages will help you express yourself.
22. Where on earth did you find someone better looking than me?!
Self-aggrandizement, or, in simpler terms, bigging yourself up, is generally a pretty funny thing to do.
The natural discomfort we feel when people talk about how great they are becomes humorous when we realize they are joking.
Pretending that you can’t understand where the girl you like could possibly have found someone who outperforms you in the looks department is objectively funny. But even more than that, it’s a great way to avoid having to talk about hurt feelings.
23. Oh well, I guess it’s time to re-download Tinder.
This line works particularly well if you met the girl you’re talking to on an app.
If things began when one of you responded to a pick-up line on Tinder from the other, you can use this text to joke that you are going “back to the drawing board,” so to speak.
24. Your time management must be exceptional.
This joke has a bit more bite than some of the others in this list. Essentially what you’re saying is, “well, you’ve been busy.”
The implication is that you’re wondering how she has managed to keep seeing you while also making time to prep for first dates with other people.
25. I’ll survive somehow.
If you want to play the “pity me” card in a humorous way, you can opt for this intentionally melodramatic response: “I’ll survive somehow.”
This is a good way to deflect attention away from any actual hurt feelings you might have.
Whatever sadness you feel will seem miniscule compared to the possibility of death.
26. Great, I’ve always wanted a polyamorous relationship. Can’t wait to meet him!
Pretending to think that a girl saying she has “met someone else” is her way of suggesting that the three of you enter a romantic arrangement is funny because it’s awkward.
That’s obviously not what she means, but depending on how well you know each other, she might think you genuinely do mean this!
Watching her navigate that discomfort might be a little bit satisfying, considering how she’s treated you.
27. Oh, thank God.
Some people might think this reply to a girl saying she likes you is a bit mean.
However, if the two of you have always had a good rapport, she’ll see the humor in this response.
28. You may be seeing someone new but are you seeing what you’ll be missing?
If you know your sense of humor is a little on the dorky side, you can use this pun to minimize the potential awkwardness of the breakdown of your relationship with a girl.
This joke plays on the multiple definitions of the word “seeing.” Its silliness will help you shield your hurt.
29. You don’t have a sister with lower standards, do you?
The implication behind this joke is of course that you would happily settle down with someone who looked like her. Really, this joke is a compliment.
Not only are you telling her she is beautiful, but you are also saying she has high standards and is out of your league.
This one-word expression of disappointment is funny because it is unexpected and unexpectedly basic.
In fact, it’s the kind of thing a child says when things don’t go their way.
Hopefully the girl will be so taken aback by having to respond to a dry text from a guy when she was expecting a wave of emotion, that she won’t be able to keep herself from laughing.
And a good laugh can heal any number of wounds.
31. That’s okay, I’ve always wanted to be the one who got away.
If you want to tell a girl that she’s making a mistake by ending things, you can joke that you are going to be the one who got away. What’s that, you ask?
The one who got away is the person that we think back on later in life and wish we had worked harder to keep around. They are someone we regret having lost.
Putting this idea in a girl’s head, even in a jokey way, might make her think twice about the romantic decisions she’s making.
Confident responses to a girl saying she has a new boyfriend
If someone hurts you, you don’t have to bite your tongue.
Stand up for yourself! Show the girl who is choosing someone else over you that you know your worth and that you don’t need her approval to feel good about yourself.
You can assert that you are actually a great catch and that she has treated you poorly with one of these strong responses to hearing that she has met someone else.
Only you two know how serious things were between you.
Were emotions already involved when she put you in the position of responding to “I’m not ready for a relationship”? If they were, you’re right to feel hard done by.
Choose one of these blunt responses to a girl saying she is dating someone else to make your feelings clear.
32. Well, it’s a good thing I have thick skin.
This message implies that if you didn’t have thick skin, you would be struggling right now.
Of course, beneath the surface of this text is the assertion that what she has done to you is seriously hurtful.
33. I think you’re making a mistake.
You can always respond to a girl who has a new boyfriend by offering your opinion on her decision to neglect you in favor of someone else.
You don’t have to say anything other than that you don’t think she’s making the right decision. What she does with your opinion is up to her.
34. One day you’ll realize that I would have been the better option.
Apparently, scientists have recently discovered that too much confidence can be bad for your health.
On the flipside though, not being confident enough can cause you to be too hard on yourself, or to accept other people’s opinions of you as fact.
If you feel that it is important for you to stand up for yourself when a girl has treated you worse than you deserve, this is the perfect message for you.
35. How can I change your mind?
Are you genuinely confident that a girl wants to be with you and that she thinks “I’ve met someone else” is a good text to send a guy to make him chase you?
If you want to be with her too, send her this reply so that she knows you’d like to work through your differences.
Working on communication for healthy relationships takes time, but this is a good start.
36. Will he be able to treat as well as I do?
If you’ve always treated the girl you’re speaking to with the utmost respect and care, you can ask this question to get her to reflect on what she has with you.
Is she really willing to give up the wonderful dates you take her on and how attentively you listen to her problems?
Only she can say. But raising the question may introduce the right kind of doubts to her mind.
37. Are you sure he can handle you?
If you’re hurt and would like to make a little dig at the girl you’re talking to, you can ask whether she is sure her new guy will be able to handle her.
The implication is that she isn’t exactly easy to deal with.
This isn’t an especially nice text to send, so do only send it if you feel like you’ve been treated equally unkindly.
38. Your loss.
If she’s allowed to reject you, you’re allowed to stand up for yourself and assert that she’s going to be losing a good thing by letting you go.
This is a straightforward way to communicate that you are a serious catch and that she’s a fool if she doesn’t see that.
39. That’s alright. I’ll meet the woman who is meant for me eventually.
Sometimes responding to rejection is all about redrawing your boundaries.
This text lets the girl you’re talking to know that you aren’t hurt because you know that what is meant for you will find you eventually. What this message does is remove her right to access your heart.
It’s no longer just her decision to not hang out with you. You’ve just let her know that a relationship with you is not on the table anymore.
40. At the end of the day, you’re doing me a favor.
If you know you’ve dodged a bullet, you can send this blunt reply to being told by a girl that she’s moved on.
This is a harsh message, so only send it if what a girl has done is tantamount to cheating.
41. I know my own worth, so I’m not offended.
When there’s no one there to stand up for us, we must stand up for ourselves.
This message is a perfect way to show a girl that you value yourself and that you won’t compromise your self-belief for anyone.
42. I’ve already moved on, so no hard feelings.
Don’t want a girl to linger under the incorrect impression that you had more serious feelings for her than she had for you?
If so, let her know there are no hard feelings because you’ve already found someone else.
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