We often talk about getting butterflies in our stomach when we have a crush.
Anyone who has ever been really into someone knows the fluttery feeling you get in your belly when you catch sight of your new flame entering a room.
Or when they smile at you across the dinner table. Or when they say your name. Or when they text you.
We all have ways of calming our happy jitters. But not everyone knows how to inspire them in someone else. This article will help you do just that.
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51 Fantastic texts to give a guy butterflies
- I can already tell that we’re going to be something special.
- I’ve never met anyone like you.
- You are so intriguing.
- Within five minutes of meeting you, I knew you were going to change my life.
- You have the most beautiful mind.
- Just knowing you’re there on your phone looking at our conversation makes me smile.
- You make me feel like the luckiest girl in the world.
- I don’t know what I did to deserve you.
- At least I got one thing right.
- You just get me.
- What we have will never get boring.
- I think we’re soulmates.
- I knew from the second I met you that this was it for me.
- Thinking of you and wishing you were here.
- How is that after all these years, a text from you still makes my heart race.
- No matter how crazy the world gets, I know you will always be a safe haven for me.
- I miss the way you smell.
- I don’t think I’ll ever get enough of you.
- All I want to do is cuddle you.
- There’s literally nothing about you that I don’t like.
- We’re gonna have a lot of fun together, aren’t we?
- How many times a day do you think about me?
- I would do anything to be able to see you right now.
- What do you think of my outfit? [with a picture]
- Just the thought of you is enough to drive me crazy.
- This winter weather is awful. Want to come warm me up?
- So when are we going to have our first kiss?
- Are you missing me as much as I’m missing you?
- Can’t stop thinking about me, huh?
- Should I wear a little black dress or a strapless red dress for our date on Friday?
- Stop taking my breath away, you’re killing me.
- I’m excited to cook for us on Saturday…what do you want to eat?
- You give me more than butterflies…you give me dragonflies.
- Wow, you are so good looking.
- Stop getting me all hot and bothered.
- I literally can’t look you in the eyes, that’s how flustered you make me.
- I can’t get last night out of my head.
- Can’t wait to kiss you when I see you.
- I’m counting down the hours until we’re reunited.
- I absolutely adore you.
- Remind me to tell you a secret later.
- How did I land such an attractive best friend?
- I’m obsessed with what we have.
- No one can make me laugh the way you do.
- As much as I’ve tried to fight it, I can’t deny how totally infatuated I am with you.
- You’re an exceptional person.
- You’re so intelligent.
- Stop messing about and just ask me on a date already.
- Do you remember when…?
- You’re the first person I want to tell whenever something interesting happens.
- Now that I’ve finally met you, I’m so glad I never settled for less.
Meaningful messages to give a guy butterflies
Excitement about a budding (or established) relationship often manifests in a fluttery feeling in the pit of our stomach.
That rush can be triggered by a variety of different things. Different guys get more and less excited by different kinds of conversations.
For example, some men get butterflies when you express that you see a real future for the two of you. These kinds of guys value deep and meaningful conversation.
Other guys get butterflies when the talk turns flirty or suggestive.
Some people will only really get butterflies when they blush and feel pleasantly embarrassed.
If you know the guy you like is looking for something serious and want to let him know that you are thinking along the same lines, you can send him one of these sweet and sincere texts.
1. I can already tell that we’re going to be something special.
It doesn’t take long to know whether you are into someone or not. If you meet a guy and keep going back and forth in your mind about whether you like him, you probably don’t.
And on the flipside, you can often tell within minutes that you could fall in love with someone.
Maybe you started talking to a guy online. He asked you out and you agreed to meet up. Within seconds of arriving at the restaurant, you thought, “this guy knows how to be a gentleman on a date.”
If this sounds like your experience, this would be a great text to send after a date to let a guy know what page you’re on.
2. I’ve never met anyone like you.
When you meet someone new and your face lights up at the mention of their name, your friends might joke around by calling you a smitten kitten.
Being smitten, as funny as it might seem to the people around us, is one of the most wonderful feelings in the world.
Letting someone know that you are totally taken with them is a sure-fire way to give them butterflies. This text is the perfect way to do that.
3. You are so intriguing.
When we’re intrigued by someone, it means we won’t be able to walk away until we’ve gotten to the bottom of our pressing questions about them.
If you call a guy intriguing, you’re telling him that you know that you managed to get a date worth keeping when you said yes to him. After all, what makes people want to come up with ways to get out of a date is boredom or disinterest.
Being intrigued is the exact opposite of this. Telling a guy he intrigues you won’t just give him butterflies…it’ll give him the whole darn zoo.
4. Within five minutes of meeting you, I knew you were going to change my life.
If you read this and are thinking, “isn’t this coming on a little bit strong?” the answer is, it depends.
Yes, it’s definitely coming on very strong if you’ve only been on one or two dates with a guy.
However, if you want to give your boyfriend butterflies and the two of you have already had conversations about how long to date before marriage, then this is perfectly appropriate.
5. You have the most beautiful mind.
There are lots of men who just want women to tell them they look hot.
However, there are also a whole host of men who are looking for a deeper connection and want to meet someone who appreciates their intellect.
If you genuinely love the way a guy thinks, this is a great message to send if you want to give his nervous system a little kick.
6. Just knowing you’re there on your phone looking at our conversation makes me smile.
The excitement of knowing that you have a guy’s full attention even though you aren’t together is certainly enough to give you butterflies.
You can return the favor by telling the guy you’re talking to that he has your undivided attention. And that even without trying, he is making you smile.
7. You make me feel like the luckiest girl in the world.
Nice guys feel good when they know they’re making the person they care about most feel good.
Telling a guy that he is making you feel lucky is a great way to give him butterflies. It’ll inspire him to start thinking about how many days in advance to ask for a date, since he’ll be so excited to see you.
8. I don’t know what I did to deserve you.
To make a guy feel valued, tell him how highly you think of him by saying you aren’t sure what you did to deserve him.
Implying that you would have had to do something to deserve him is a way to express that you think he is worthy of an exceptional person.
9. At least I got one thing right.
If you’ve been feeling down recently and are worried that you have been a bit of a burden on the guy you’re seeing, you can make light of the situation.
This message is the perfect way to ease the tension a guy will feel after a week of trying to come up with things to text your girlfriend when she is sad.
Plus, it is also a fantastic compliment.
10. You just get me.
Not everyone is big on grand statements or sweeping gestures. If you tend to be more subtle with your expressions of affection, you can opt for this simple statement.
Because it is a little understated, the guy you’re writing to will know how sincerely you mean this. If he’s into you, this text will definitely give him a warm, fuzzy feeling in his belly.
11. What we have will never get boring.
Want to send a deep message that has a little bit of a saucy undertone? Send this.
Not only will it reassure the guy in your life that you’re committed to him, but it will also tell him that you are still very into him.
12. I think we’re soulmates.
Okay, this message is intended for a very specific stage of a relationship. Don’t send this too early on. It might freak a guy out.
You also don’t want to send it too far into a relationship either though. If you’re already thinking about how soon is too soon to move in and are actively planning a future, this message might appear too flighty.
The sweet spot for this kind of text is after seven or eight dates when you’ve just started going out. It’s suitable once you’ve established that you both like each other and are faced with having to navigate real life challenges such as how to date someone who works nights.
At this pivotal stage, you need to remind the person you’re seeing why the hardship is worth it. This message will do just that.
3. I knew from the second I met you that this was it for me.
If a guy seems to be having doubts about how into him you are, you can send him this text to reassure him.
Being sent something that is so full of positive reinforcement will give a guy confidence in your connection.
14. Thinking of you and wishing you were here.
This text combines two OG butterfly-inspiring messages. “Thinking of you” and “wishing you were here” are classic ways to up the ante of any text exchange.
If you’ve ever had to come up with ways to respond when a guy says he’s thinking of you, you’ll know how flattering and exciting this message feels to receive.
15. How is that after all these years, a text from you still makes my heart race.
Butterflies aren’t just for people in the honeymoon stage of their relationship. In fact, keeping butterflies alive is crucial for keeping a relationship alive.
When you’re a few years into responding to “I love you so much” each and every morning, words about love can start to lose their weight.
Giving a more specific and detailed description about what the person you love makes you experience in your body will get their heartrate up again.
16. No matter how crazy the world gets, I know you will always be a safe haven for me.
Some people get butterflies when they feel a sense of excitement or danger. Others get butterflies when someone makes them feel completely safe and at ease.
If your guy is definitely in the latter category, you can send him this sweet and meaningful text.
Flirty messages to give a guy butterflies
Not everyone enjoys being made to feel safe by the person they’re seeing. In fact, many people might find messages about love and commitment cheesy…or just a bit boring.
What they want is to be teased or poked fun at. They want to be challenged and to feel that things are uncertain.
A lot of guys enjoy not knowing what is going to happen next. If you can create a relationship in which they are always being taken by surprise, they’ll be sure to stick around.
Have you ever walked across a suspension bridge? If you have, you know the fluttery, nervous feeling that danger can give you. This is exactly what a lot of guys are looking for from a text exchange.
Here are some creative and cheeky ways to introduce an element of danger into your texts to give a guy butterflies.
17. I miss the way you smell.
Here is the most important thing to remember if you want to give a guy butterflies: refer to sensation.
Talking about touch and smell will immediately bring them into a sensual headspace that will make them more aware of how their body feels.
18. I don’t think I’ll ever get enough of you.
If you’re overwhelmed by how much you like a guy, you can tell him you don’t think you’ll ever get enough of him.
If you’re worried about sounding needy, don’t be. No guy doesn’t want to hear that he is wanted.
After all, a lot of guys live in fear of having to respond to a girl saying she just wants to be friends. A girl expressing too much affection is a pretty good problem to have.
19. All I want to do is cuddle you.
Want to make a guy think about your bodies close together? Tell him all you want to do is cuddle him.
That’ll be sure to get his heart racing.
20. There’s literally nothing about you that I don’t like.
Is there a better compliment than this? That’s a serious question. Try to think of one.
Telling a guy that you like everything about him is a good way to boost his ego and make him feel valued.
No one doesn’t want to be adored by the person they like. This loving text is great because it is completely enthusiastic without being overly sappy or saccharine.
21. We’re gonna have a lot of fun together, aren’t we?
Want to get a guy excited about what’s to come? This text is the perfect way to convince someone to date you if they were in any way on the fence about things.
How could they not want to keep seeing someone who is enthusiastic, outgoing, and (dare we say it) a little provocative?
22. How many times a day do you think about me?
The game of love starts as the game of flirting. And part of flirting is challenging someone.
The best way to challenge someone is to interrogate them just a little.
This question is the perfect way to give a guy butterflies.
23. I would do anything to be able to see you right now.
Have you ever found yourself responding to an “I wish you were here” text from a guy? If so, you’ll know the feeling of wanting to be with someone but not being able to.
That tantalizing feeling in your gut is exactly the kind of thing that gives a person butterflies.
24. What do you think of my outfit? [with a picture]
What usually gives people butterflies is seeing the person they like. In an age where it is just as common to text your partner as it is to see them in person, that is an inconvenient fact.
However, communicating through phones is not an insurmountable obstacle to giving someone butterflies. One way around it is to send a guy a picture of yourself on the premise of asking him his opinion on what you’re wearing.
Plus, there are many ways that a guy can respond to a picture from a girl, so you’ll surely get a good conversation going.
25. Just the thought of you is enough to drive me crazy.
If you are someone who wears their heart on your sleeve and is not afraid of a forward message, this text is the perfect way to give the guy you like butterflies.
The implication is that if just the thought of him drives you crazy, there’s no telling how you’ll feel when he’s actually there.
26. This winter weather is awful. Want to come warm me up?
Do you feel embarrassed at the thought of sending a text like this? Sure, it’s pretty forward and a little cheesy. But if you want to progress a relationship, you have to be willing to put your pride on the line!
What’s the worst thing that can happen, right?
27. So when are we going to have our first kiss?
Physical touch often gives people butterflies. In the absence of the real thing, the best option available to us is talking about touching.
Discussing something that you haven’t yet done with the person you like is also a good way to grab their attention.
Knowing that a kiss from him is something you want and think about will surely make a guy feel some type of way.
28. Are you missing me as much as I’m missing you?
If love is a game of chess, this text is the equivalent of moving your pawn forward one place on the board. You’re expressing to a guy that you miss him, while also demanding to know whether he misses you too.
So: You’re conceding a point, so-to-speak, but you’re making sure that he concedes one too.
29. Can’t stop thinking about me, huh?
Want to tease a guy by acting like you know you’re on his mind? This is a great way to go about it.
If you were saying this in person, it would come with a knowing smirk.
When you ask this, a guy knows he can’t win. He either has to admit that he is thinking about you, in which case he’s giving you a free point, or he has to deny it, which will probably come across as harsh and uncaring.
The sheer nervousness about what the best response would be will give him butterflies.
40. Should I wear a little black dress or a strapless red dress for our date on Friday?
If you aren’t going to give someone a visual by sending them a picture, you can still conjure one up in their imagination by describing something you plan to wear on a date.
If you cloak this in the pretense of asking his opinion about what you should wear, it won’t be obvious what you’re doing.
Either way, expect the speed and regularity of his texts to increase after this message.
31. Stop taking my breath away…you’re killing me.
Telling someone they take your breath away is a pretty serious compliment.
It’s basically letting them know that you think they’re gorgeous and that you’re totally infatuated with them.
32. I’m excited to cook for us on Saturday…what do you want to eat?
…and then there’s this text, which takes the advice of the age-old saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
After all, flirting doesn’t always have to be about the physical aspects of a relationship. And it doesn’t even always have to involve teasing.
Saying something caring can also be flirtatious. And this is a case in point. If a guy is more about home comforts than adrenaline-triggering excitement, this might be just the right text to give him butterflies.
Texts that will make a guy blush
If you’re struggling to think of a good message to make a guy blush, reverse the roles in your mind. Think about a guy coming up with things to text a girl to make her blush. What kinds of things would you want to hear? What would make your cheeks flush?
Don’t overthink it. What will give a guy butterflies is the feeling of being connected to you. And that, of course, is only possible if you are genuinely expressing what you’re feeling.
So, more than trying to craft the perfect message, focus on saying what comes to mind when you think of the guy in your life.
If you’re being sincere, and possibly a little forward, you’ll draw color into your guy’s cheeks immediately.
33. You give me more than butterflies…you give me dragonflies.
Butterflies are like yawns…they’re contagious. If you want to give a guy butterflies, one good way to do this is to tell him that you have butterflies.
However, because that would be a bit of a boring message, you can tell him that he gives you more than butterflies. And what’s bigger and flutterier than even a butterfly? A dragonfly, of course!
34. Wow, you are so good looking.
Most guys are more than happy to come up with as many ways to respond to a compliment from a girl as they are given the opportunity to.
If you want to give a guy that light and happy feeling in his chest and belly, you can make him feel pleasantly embarrassed.
Nothing makes us more pleasantly embarrassed than having someone tell us they find us attractive.
35. Stop getting me all hot and bothered.
This verging-on-brazen text will have those butterflies breaking out of their cocoons as soon as it hits your man’s screen.
But hey, that’s the goal, right?
36. I literally can’t look you in the eyes, that’s how flustered you make me.
Telling someone they make you feel flustered will make them feel both proud and embarrassed.
You know what else it will do? That’s right, you guessed it: give them butterflies.
37. I can’t get last night out of my head.
Whatever last night might have been, whether a lovely dinner, a romantic walk, or your first kiss, sending this text will take the guy in your life right back to it.
If he had as good a time as you did, the memory will no doubt evoke a funny feeling in his belly.
38. Can’t wait to kiss you when I see you.
This message will bring the guy receiving it right back to the last time you did kiss. And hey, as long as he’s into you, he’s unlikely to complain about the reminder.
39. I’m counting down the hours until we’re reunited.
If you’re doing your best to make a long-distance relationship work, you’re probably sick of only communicating with the guy in your life through a phone screen.
And that’s fair enough. For as long as they’ve existed, the natural state of relationships is of two people living near each other and spending time together in person.
In a normal relationship, you would find yourself coming up with ways to respond to a guy saying, “we should hang out,” and could get together immediately.
That said, one of the major upsides of long-distance is that absence makes the heart grow fonder, which makes reuniting pretty awesome.
You can make that reunion even more special by building anticipation for it in advance with texts like this one.
40. I absolutely adore you.
Sometimes an unconditional, unqualified expression of affection is the best way to give a guy butterflies. Particularly if you’re in a long-term, committed relationship.
Giving someone positive reinforcement in a relationship never hurts.
41. Remind me to tell you a secret later.
Nothing is more enticing than having someone tell you they have a secret to share with you. That said, these words can be pretty nerve-wracking too.
But don’t worry…butterflies are basically a physical expression of wracked nerves, so you’re in the clear.
42. How did I land such an attractive best friend?
If you want to make a guy feel appreciated as both a lover and a partner, you can send him this all-inclusive message that conveys that you feel you’ve gotten two great things for the price of one.
43. I’m obsessed with what we have.
Saying you are obsessed with your relationship does two important things.
For one, it shows that you have total and complete trust in the guy that you’re with.
For another, it conveys that you’re still excited by him, regardless of how long you’ve been together for.
44. No one can make me laugh the way you do.
Laughter and a shared sense of humor are key to a great relationship. You need to be able to poke fun at one another and should generally find the same sort of jokes enjoyable.
Otherwise, one of you would be left laughing on your own all the time.
If you find the guy in your life particularly hilarious, tell him that he makes you laugh more than anyone else. The pride he feels on knowing this will surely give him that butterfly feeling.
45. As much as I’ve tried to fight it, I can’t deny how totally infatuated I am with you.
This one is pretty self-explanatory. Particularly if you’ve never said this to a guy in such uncertain terms, he’ll appreciate this total vote of confidence.
46. You’re an exceptional person.
I mean, who doesn’t want to hear this from the person that they like, right?
47. You’re so intelligent.
It isn’t just compliments about physical appearance that give a person butterflies. People also enjoy being told that the way they think is valued.
48. Stop messing about and just ask me on a date already.
If you responded to a pickup line on Tinder and now find yourself in what feels like a never-ending back and forth via text, you can suggest to a guy that he needs to stop messing about.
Hopefully, you’ll be responding to someone asking you out soon enough.
49. Do you remember when…?
One of the best ways to give someone butterflies is to reference a time when they had them.
By calling up a memory that’s loaded with that pleasantly nervous feeling, you’ll be calling up their body’s physical memory of the event too.
50. You’re the first person I want to tell whenever something interesting happens.
They say you know you that you’re in love with someone when they’re the first person you want to tell about your day.
Letting a guy know that he is that person for you will leave him in no doubt about how you feel about him.
51. Now that I’ve finally met you, I’m so glad I never settled for less.
This text expresses two important things. First, that you consider him the love of your life and the one. Second, that you think he is a higher-caliber man than any you’ve been with before.
If that doesn’t give him a jittery, happy feeling, I don’t know what will.
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