Being told you are on a guy’s mind can be more meaningful than hearing him say, “I love you so much.”
When a man you like is thinking about you in a way that prompts him to tell you about it, you know the thoughts he’s having are caring ones.
Whether he’s reminiscing on your past dates or making plans for your future, the simple fact that you’re at the forefront of his mind means you matter to him.
If you’re caught off guard by a guy telling you that you’re currently the main character of his internal dialogue, you might struggle to come up with a good response.
If that is what’s happening to you right now, don’t worry. The most important thing is that you reciprocate the sentiment if you feel the same way, and that you are clear about where you stand if you don’t.
If you still feel confused about what to reply, check out this comprehensive list of sample messages to text in response to a guy saying he’s thinking about you.
30 smooth ways to respond when a guy says he’s thinking about you
- I was literally just going to text you that.
- Good things, I hope?
- I wish you were here.
- Same here…I’ve been thinking about you all day.
- I haven’t been able to get you off my mind since I saw you.
- You’re so good to me. I don’t know how I got so lucky.
- Can’t wait to see you on Thursday evening!
- I’d love to know what exactly you’re thinking if you feel like sharing 🙃
- I’m all ears.
- Want to meet up so you can tell me what you’re thinking?
- Go on…? 😏
- Say more?
- I’m really looking forward to getting together again sometime.
- Oh yeah? What exactly are you thinking?
- You’ll see me soon enough; I’ll make sure of that.
- Oh dear, why, what have I done?
- What I wouldn’t give to be able to read minds right now.
- What film rating would you give your thoughts?
- Pray tell?
- Want to make those thoughts a reality?
- Anything worth sharing?
- Penny for those thoughts?
- You know what they say about thoughts…
- Oh, why would you be doing that?
- This is a bit awkward, but I don’t think I want to pursue things any further.
- Hey, this is a confusing message to get. I’m not sure why you’re thinking about me?
- You know I have a boyfriend, right?
- Oh, I’m sorry if I’ve given you the wrong impression. I’m not looking for anything more than friendship at the moment.
- I hope you haven’t interpreted my friendship as anything more than that?
- Oh dear, I think we’re on different pages about what this relationship is.
Flirty responses to a guy saying, “thinking about you”
Most women like getting “good morning” and “good night” texts from the guy they like.
Whether the guy texting you happens to be your boyfriend or is just someone you’re arranging a date on Tinder with, knowing he’s put thought into texting you can mean a lot.
What’s even more special is when you get a text from your crush for no specific reason. Getting a message that says, “thinking of you” is the modern equivalent of the old-school phone call, “just to say hi.”
When a guy you like sends you a text to tell you that you’re on his mind, what he’s really saying is “I care about you, and I can’t wait to see you.”
Whether your long-time partner is trying to reintroduce a bit of romance or a guy you’ve recently gone to dinner with has chosen to send this text after a date, countyourself lucky. A lot of guys are a lot less considerate.
Make sure you reciprocate his expression of care with one of these flirty responses.
1. I was literally just going to text you that.
If a guy texts you telling you he’s thinking about you and you’ve been thinking about him all day too, you might be wondering whether telepathy exists.
And while you have a lifetime to decide whether you think it does, you only have a matter of minutes to craft the perfect response, or you’ll risk losing the magic of the moment.
Your reply doesn’t have to be anything long and elaborate. In fact, the simpler the better. Just let him know that he has also been on your mind by telling him you were going to text him the same thing.
Just think of your response as a reply to a compliment for a guy, because ultimately, that’s what “thinking of you” is.
2. Good things, I hope?
Does the information that a guy is thinking about you make you nervous? I mean, after all, he could be thinking anything about you.
If you’re the insecure or nervous type, you might wonder, “Is he thinking about me because he is thinking about sending a rejection text?”
Don’t worry. That’s highly unlikely. But if you want to jokingly check that he’s only thinking positive things about you, this is a funny reply.
3. I wish you were here.
This is a straightforward response to being told you are on a guy’s mind.
Being told “I’m thinking about you” is kind of like having a guy tell you he misses you.
So, the natural response is to say you’d like to alleviate the situation that’s causing you to miss each other, which in this case is the fact that you’re apart.
Telling a guy that you wish you were together will let him know you’re on the same page and that you feel just as enthusiastic about him as he does about you.
4. Same here…I’ve been thinking about you all day.
While “I’m thinking about you too” might seem like a bit of a boring response, you can spice up the sentiment by saying, “same here.”
Adding that your boyfriend or love interest has been on your mind all day will make him feel special and convince him that you aren’t just reciprocating his message for the sake of it.
Especially if you’re in the early stages of dating (for example, you’ve only been on one first date that went well), saying, “thinking about you” can be a scary thing to do.
Encourage his forward approach by upping the stakes with this enthusiastic message.
5. I haven’t been able to get you off my mind since I saw you.
If you’re head-over-heels for a guy, you can go all in with this bold reply to “thinking of you”.
They say that when you know, you know. If you went out with a guy who acted like a gentleman on a date and blew you away from the word go, you don’t have to play it cool.
If he writes to you saying that he is thinking about you, you’ll know he’s also totally into it and you don’t have to worry about getting a rejection text from a guy.
6. You’re so good to me. I don’t know how I got so lucky.
This is a sweet response to being told a guy is thinking about you. If he’s going out of his way to let you know you’re on his mind, he’ll appreciate knowing that you’re grateful for how affectionate he is.
Not all guys are good at communicating their feelings.
In fact, a lot of men out there are non-committal about what they want, with the result that a lot of women spend their time wondering what to text to get a guy to chase you.
7. Can’t wait to see you on Thursday evening!
If you agreed to a date days in advance and have your plans all lined up, you’ll probably have been looking forward to it.
If a guy texts you a day or two before to confirm your arrangements for the evening out and then tells you he’s thinking about you, you can respond with, “can’t wait to see you.”
Specifying the time (or the time and place) you’re going to meet up is a nice touch that makes your message more personal.
8. I’d love to know what exactly you’re thinking if you feel like sharing 🙃
People use the upside-down smiley emoji when flirting, particularly when they’re making a dry joke or being ironic.
This kind of reply provides a great opportunity to make use of this lighthearted emoji.
9. I’m all ears.
When someone makes a profound statement over text, it can be easy to let it become the end of your conversation.
After all, what can you reply after someone says, “I love you” for the first time except for repeating the sentiment?
Grand claims and statements naturally cap a text exchange, so to keep your chat going, encourage the guy you’re talking to to say exactly what he’s thinking about you.
10. Want to meet up so you can tell me what you’re thinking?
If you suspect that the guy you like is messaging you to suggest getting together but doesn’t want to come right out and ask, you can reply with this text.
By meeting your crush halfway, you’re showing that you’re just as interested in him as he is in you.
And ultimately, that kind of mutual exchange of enthusiastic messages provides a solid foundation that a healthy relationship can grow upon.
11. Go on…? 😏
The smirking smiley is the most suggestive symbol on the emoji keyboard, so if you’re trying to send the conversation in a flirty direction, this is the reply for you.
If your guy has done a great job of impressing on a first date, and you are definitely interested in pursuing things, this is a great way to show where you’re at.
12. Say more?
Encouraging a guy to continue with his expressions of interest, and to expand on why he’s thinking about you, will keep the conversation going.
Plus, it’ll probably turn into one of those situations where a guy is explaining why he likes a girl, and he’ll shower you with compliments.
So, if you want to hear a load of nice things about yourself, just keep pushing the chat forward.
13. I’m really looking forward to getting together again sometime.
This is a clear and sincere response to being told someone you like can’t get you off their mind.
It’s practical because it translates the feeling of missing someone into a plan for alleviating those feelings.
Flirting doesn’t always have to be funny, and this is a prime example of how you can show genuine interest without cracking a joke.
14. Oh yeah? What exactly are you thinking?
If you want to spur on the text exchange and are also just genuinely curious what the guy you’re chatting to is thinking, this makes a good response to “thinking of you.”
By starting your message with, “Oh yeah?” you are clearly indicating that you are here for a flirty back and forth.
15. You’ll see me soon enough; I’ll make sure of that.
If you’re a confident gal who doesn’t need to be asked twice to show interest, this is an ideal reply to being told a man has you in his thoughts.
Witty responses to a guy saying, “thinking about you”
If your sense of humor is your strong suit, one of these sample responses will probably strike a chord with you.
Guys like a girl who is exciting to be around and who can make them laugh, so don’t ever feel like you have to dull your shine when you’re getting to know a guy.
No one wants to continue a conversation that drags, but when an exchange keeps us on our toes, we can hardly put our phones down.
So, if your person of the moment lets you know you’re currently occupying a lot of their headspace, opt for one of these stimulating replies.
16. Oh dear, why, what have I done?
Pretending that you think you have a guy’s attention because you’ve done something to upset him puts his conversational skills to the test.
To prove he can keep up with your witty banter, he will now have to send back a similarly funny reply.
The pressure to prove himself will keep him invested in texting. Plus, he probably won’t be expecting this response, which means you’ll be keeping him on his toes and showing him that life with you is never predictable.
17. What I wouldn’t give to be able to read minds right now.
Have you ever been asked “If you could have any superpower, which power would you choose?”
Well, a study of the preferred superpowers of Americans showed that while “the ability to heal others” was top choice with 34 percent, “the ability to read people’s minds” was the fifth most popular, with 15 percent.
You can reference this popular party question when a guy lets you know you’re on his mind. What you’re essentially saying is, “I’d genuinely love to know what exactly you’re thinking about me.”
18. What film rating would you give your thoughts?
This reply isn’t for the faint of heart. It’s pretty out there to ask a guy to give his thoughts about you an MPAA movie rating.
But if you know that a guy gets your sense of humor (and doesn’t shy away from a bold joke), this a great way to take your conversation to the next level.
After all, if he can’t handle your funny quips, you’ll probably never be asking yourselves how long to date before marriage anyway.
Plus, if he thinks you’re being too forward, he can always respond with a funny 👀 emoji.
19. Pray tell?
Surprisingly, this response has nothing to do with religion. Instead, it is an old-fashioned way of asking someone to explain themselves.
Etymologically speaking, the phrase “pray” in this context comes from the Olde English, “prithee,” meaning “please.” “Tell” in this context was used to mean “explain.”
So basically, this reply is the perfect way to say, “please explain,” with an added linguistic twist.
20. Want to make those thoughts a reality?
This response to “I’m thinking about you” is also not one for the faint of heart.
If you’re trying to convince someone to date you, you might feel the need to pull out all the stops. If you’re working on being your funniest, cheekiest, and most confident self, this message is certainly a good way to go.
Showing a guy that you aren’t going to shy away from expressing your interest in him will make him feel like he’s getting a compliment from a girl. If he likes you, he won’t let the ball drop, and he’ll respond with something just as encouraging.
21. Anything worth sharing?
If a guy lets you know you’re on his mind and you are genuinely dying to know what a guy is thinking about you, you can ask him if those thoughts are worth sharing.
This reply gives him an easy out if he’d rather not delve into what and why you’re at the top of his mental list. However, if he wants to keep the ball rolling and plans on asking you out, you’re opening up an easy avenue for him to say how he feels.
Any text message with a question mark at the end suggests you want to keep the exchange going, which he’ll take as a promising sign. Knowing you’re sitting on your phone looking forward to the next notification will make him keen to respond.
As a result, the pace of your conversation will probably pick up, which means you’ll being to establish a good texting rapport.
22. Penny for those thoughts?
In the modern world where online dating is booming and love and technology go hand in hand, most people aren’t just chatting to one person, at least in the initial stages.
This means that when you swipe right on someone you really like, you have to put effort into showing them you are a date worth keeping and make yourself stand out from the crowd.
How do I do that, you ask? Well, originality and intelligence are key. Don’t just send back generic responses. I mean, you know yourself that guys who call you sweet are a dime a dozen online, which makes pursuing them less interesting.
When a guy keeps you guessing by being mysterious and responding to questions with “maybe,” you’ll probably be intrigued and want to keep texting.
So, how can you be original? Well, for starters, respond to generic messages with clever replies. For example, “penny for those thoughts?” is a play on the common phrase, “a penny for your thoughts?”
This slight variation of a common idiom will let your match know he’s dating a smart girl.
23. You know what they say about thoughts…
When you’re dating a guy who is busy all the time, you have to make your company worth his while. If he isn’t kept on his toes, it may not feel worth it for him to keep putting time into building your relationship.
If the two of you have great flirty banter, he won’t be trying to get out of a date any time soon.
What does this reply to “I’m thinking about you” mean? Well, people often say, “Your thoughts become your reality.” This is usually used in motivational speaking when talking about achieving personal and career goals.
By joking that a guy should be careful what he thinks about you, because those thoughts will become his reality, you’re telling him he’s in with a chance.
Great responses to a guy saying, “thinking about you” if you aren’t interested
Unfortunately, not all crushes are reciprocated.
Maybe a guy sent you a pick-up line on Tinder and you half-heartedly entertained a conversation for a while but have now grown bored of him.
If you find yourself wanting to cancel a date, you know your interest is probably beyond saving.
Alternatively, you might see a notification pop up from a guy you’ve never thought of romantically at all. You might feel surprised to see his name on your screen beside such a flirty message.
In either case, hearing that you are on the mind of a guy you’d rather not think about isn’t a hugely fun experience.
Whether you feel guilty for letting him down or a bit grossed out that he’s thinking about you at all, respond by clarifying where you stand.
You can use humor to do this or opt for a more serious tone, but either way, you should leave the guy messaging you in no doubt about the fact that you don’t want him to keep thinking about you.
24. Oh, why would you be doing that?
Have you ever come across a frog on a road and seen it freeze and play dead when you get too close?
Well, let’s just say we could all learn a lot from the animal kingdom, and there’s something to be said for playing dumb and feigning oblivion.
If you don’t want to have to have a long back-and-forth text exchange with a guy about why you aren’t into him, you can pretend not to know that he’s flirting with you.
By acting like you have innocently misunderstood his text, you can worm your way out of this tough spot.
If he wants to say anything else to you, he’s going to have to come right out and express why he thought it was appropriate to send you the text he did. In most cases, guys will feel too uncomfortable to do that, and so the conversation will end there.
25. This is a bit awkward, but I don’t think I want to pursue things any further.
If you thought you had an initial spark with a guy, but have since realized that you aren’t interested, this message is a good way to let him down easy.
Maybe you decided against continuing the “flirtation-ship” because of something personal, for example, if the guy called you dramatic or was rude. Or maybe, you just realized that the two of you weren’t going to be compatible in the long-term.
While no one likes having to respond to a break-up text (or an “I’m no longer interested” text), letting someone know how you really feel about them is kinder in the long-term.
26. Hey, this is a confusing message to get. I’m not sure why you’re thinking about me?
As mentioned above, pretending not to understand what someone is saying can get you out of a whole heap of awkward situations.
As people on the dating scene, we constantly have to pretend to not know things that we actually do know. Dating and relationships involve a lot of innuendo and a lot of reading between the lines.
Because things go unspoken, we can get away with pretending not to understand them. Forcing a guy to come out and explicitly say why he’s thinking about you will probably scare him away…which, if you don’t like him, is what you wanted in the first place.
27. You know I have a boyfriend, right?
Whether or not you actually have a boyfriend, this age-old get-out-of-jail-free card will get you away from the clutches of any leering guy.
Regardless of whether a guy approaches you in person, slides into your DMs, or texts you out of the blue, this is a fool-proof way to avoid any further contact.
And if he does continue to try to reach out, you can send back a strongly worded message about how you wouldn’t be interested even if you weren’t in a relationship.
Asking a guy to respect your boundaries is never a bad thing and being assertive about what you do and don’t want in your inbox can be very empowering.
28. Oh, I’m sorry if I’ve given you the wrong impression. I’m not looking for anything more than friendship at the moment.
If a guy who you really like as a friend seems to have taken your kindness the wrong way, don’t be too harsh.
I mean, you’re great, right? So you’ll have to forgive him for wanting to get to know you better. And as long as he’s been respectful in his advances, there’s nothing wrong with the fact that he took a shine to you.
Even if you’ve already been on a date with him, there is no shame in saying no to a second date.
You’re both looking for love, and if it isn’t there for you, that’s not your fault. Plus, who knows, sometimes putting someone in the friend zone over text marks the beginning of a great relationship as pals.
29. I hope you haven’t interpreted my friendship as anything more than that?
Starting a rejection text with “I hope you…” is a good way to put the responsibility for a guy’s projection squarely on his shoulders.
While it is flattering when a guy has a crush on you, what isn’t flattering is when he blames you for that crush when you don’t reciprocate it.
At the end of the day, it isn’t your fault that he feels the way he does about you, and if you haven’t led him on, you shouldn’t be apologizing for being a nice and friendly person.
Try to refrain from saying “I’m sorry” when you haven’t done anything wrong. And this is especially important when it comes to dating and protecting your personal space.
There are only so many hours in the day, and you shouldn’t spend yours talking to people who aren’t filling you with excitement.
30. Oh dear, I think we’re on different pages about what this relationship is.
If you want to avoid the blame and fault game altogether, you can tell a guy that you think the two of you are “on different pages” about the nature of your relationship.
By phrasing your rejection text as though the two of you simply have a difference of opinion about what should happen, you’re letting him off the hook for misinterpreting your interest.
The guy you’re texting will appreciate that he isn’t being told off, and your friendship will be stronger for having had such an honest exchange about where you both stand.
In a lot of friendships between men and women, awkwardness arises when neither party is clear about what they want. This can lead to disagreements or even to a friend ghosting you because they don’t want to address the imbalance in your feelings.
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