One of the oldest pieces of relationship advice in the book is that you shouldn’t compete with your partner. No matter how often we hear this, it can be tempting to keep score of everything!
Who paid for the last coffee? Who took out the trash last? Who got each other the better Christmas present?
Experts will tell you not to go down this road! A little competition can be healthy, but too much can change you from a two-person team into competitors.
However, there is one exception to this rule, and that is when it comes to the amount of love you and your partner have for each other.
Basically, if you tell your partner that you love them and they respond with, “I love you more,” this is a definite green flag.
Go ahead, indulge in your expressions of mutual affection. Here are a few ways you might do this.
29 ways to respond to “I love you more”
- Aw, stop being so perfect.
- Gosh, you’re so cute, aren’t you?
- You’re making me feel so special.
- That’s so incredibly sweet.
- How did I get so lucky?
- It’s almost offensive that you think that would possible.
- You must not really understand how much I love you if you think that’s true.
- What a sweetheart you are.
- Stop, you’re making me blush!
- Not a chance, babe.
- That’s impossible, sorry.
- Oh sorry, I’ve already maxed out the love limit, you’re out of luck.
- How could you possibly know that?
- Maybe when pigs fly and hell freezes over.
- Oh no, I don’t think you understand. Every morning I meticulously calculate the amount of love I feel for you so that it is just one percent more than you love me that day.
- Well, we’re officially that incredibly cheesy couple. Congratulations, we made it!
- If you think that, you must underestimate how much I love you.
- Don’t ever doubt how I feel about you.
- Next time we argue, let’s just remember this moment and how much we care about each other.
- I’m glad we’ve made up and can tell each other we love each other again, because it’s all I want to do.
- We’re so silly. I can’t believe we go from full-on fighting to this.
- Well, we certainly feel a lot of emotions about each other, don’t we?
- I’m so glad we’re not arguing anymore. I hate fighting with you, it’s much better being loving.
- Since day one, I’ve known that we were meant to be.
- You are more than the love of my life; you’re my soulmate.
- I really do wonder how I got so lucky. You’re one of a kind and I’m so grateful for you.
- I swear, I thank my lucky stars every day that I walked into that bar when I did.
- Well, we are the lucky few, aren’t we?
- You have me till we run out of time, I’m telling you.
How to respond to “I love you more” in a casual conversation
If you’ve been together with your partner for a long time, you may get so used to telling each other you love each other that the words barely have an impact anymore.
You might as well be telling each other you have food between your teeth!
You might as well be telling each other you have food between your teeth!
To spice up your casual chats, it can be nice to express just how very much you actually mean the words “I love you.”
If you receive a message saying, “I love you more” from a long-term partner, don’t just let the moment pass you by. Capitalize on it!
Here are a few sweet responses to turn a casual expression of love from a long-term partner into a more meaningful conversation.
1. Aw, stop being so perfect.
The thing about saying “I love you more,” when someone says, “I love you,” is that is usually brings the conversation to an end.
That is, unless you are one of those couples who continues on with “no, I love you more.” And that, let’s be honest, can get exhausting.
So, to make sure the conversation doesn’t just end there, throw your partner a quick compliment. If you ever aren’t sure how to compliment your partner, just think about what you appreciate about them and tell them. It’s that easy!
Telling them to stop being so perfect, for example, clearly conveys the message that you were very happy to receive their text.
2. Gosh, you’re so cute, aren’t you?
Keep up the flirty feeling by saying something sweet and complimentary.
Ending what you say with a question mark will signal to your partner that you want them to keep the conversation going.
3. You’re making me feel so special.
Imagine you’re in the supermarket or are picking up the kids from school, and you look down at your phone and see that your partner has sent you a message telling you they “love you more.”
You may be surprised that even in the middle of your hectic life and during a casual texting exchange, your lover can still give you butterflies!
If you’re truly touched by their message, let them know how special they make you feel.
Little moments like this can be the foundation a healthy relationship rests upon.
4. That’s so incredibly sweet.
If you just want to express straightforward happiness at having received such a cute message in the middle of a casual conversation, let your partner know how sweet you think it is that they messaged you this.
A simple expression of care will do. You don’t have to labor the point.
5. How did I get so lucky?
This is an endearing way to respond to “I love you more.” It leaves room for the conversation to continue, because your partner can jokingly suggest a reason for your luck or make some self-deprecating remark about how you have in fact not gotten so lucky.
At the very least, this response lets your partner know that you feel you are lucky, which they will of course be over the moon to hear.
6. It’s almost offensive that you think that would possible.
If you want to keep the “who loves each other more?” competition going, but don’t want to opt for the predictable “no, I love you more,” you could send this clever but casual response.
The implication of this text is of course that you love your partner so much that for them to think they love you more is an unfair underestimation of your feelings.
You’re not actually suggesting that they are being offensive, but they might enjoy the light-hearted ribbing.
7. You must not really understand how much I love you if you think that’s true.
This response comes right out and says what the previous example only implies.
This is best used when talking to a long-term partner who you feel completely comfortable with, and not with someone who might turn around next week and tell you that they aren’t ready for a relationship.
This also takes the tone of the conversation from one that could be construed as relatively casual to one that is more serious and romantic.
8. What a sweetheart you are.
This is a great response to send if you appreciate the sweet sentiment but are in the middle of a busy day, but don’t necessarily want to keep the gushing expressions of love going.
It lets your partner know that you are grateful for their affection and for letting you know how much they care, but that you don’t necessarily have the time to keep the exchange going.
9. Stop, you’re making me blush!
Being incredibly comfortable with someone can sometimes take the wind out of the romantic sails.
One of the things that makes the early days of a relationship so special is the shyness, coyness, and embarrassment that you feel around your new girlfriend or boyfriend.
Try to recreate that giddy feeling of a new love by showing your partner that their expressions of love are embarrassing you, just as they would have if you had just met!
10. Not a chance, babe.
This is a sweet one-liner that shows your confidence in your feelings and will be sure to make your partner smile.
Without having to say too much, you are letting them know that you are so confident about how much you love them that you don’t even have to engage with their attempt to contest your level of love.
They are sure to continue their day while trying to contain a happy smile.
How to respond to “I love you more” in a joking way
If you love your partner very much but want to avoid getting into soppy territory by continuing the effusive expressions of love, try to turn the conversation into a more bantering one.
You might also turn to humor to deflect some of the embarrassed happiness you are feeling at having received such a sweet message.
Here are a few ways you might jokingly respond to someone telling you they “love you more.”
11. That’s impossible, sorry.
This light-hearted quip implies that since you know how much you love the person speaking to, you also know that there is some almost scientific law that they would be violating if they loved you more than you love them.
This response is short and funny because it seems to allow for no right of reply. If something is impossible, there is not point arguing about it, which is essentially what you are trying to say.
Resistance is futile. They just have to accept that your love is infinite.
Instead of getting overly sincere, though, you are expressing a lot of emotion in a funny way! This is the perfect response if you and your partner tend to tease each other often.
12. Oh sorry, I’ve already maxed out the love limit, you’re out of luck.
This is another funny response to “I love you more” that relies on the invention of a false rule about limits on love.
By phrasing your response as though your partner has somehow lost out in a competition, you’re keeping the competitive tone of your earlier conversation going, while also introducing a new element to the mix in the form of your fake rule.
Appealing to a false authority is a great basis for banter, because it introduces an inside joke into the conversation.
13. How could you possibly know that?
This is a light-hearted response that calls your partner’s bluff.
You’ll make them squirm while they’re trying to come up with a funny way to respond.
By pretending to take their assertion seriously, as though it may or may not be objective fact, you are introducing a joke of your own.
This could turn into a great conversation as you discuss the impossibility of their knowing who loves each other more and they try to convince you of the opposite.
14. Maybe when pigs fly and hell freezes over.
This is a funny way to express that you are so absolutely sure of your love that you don’t even have to entertain the suggestion that your partner might love you more.
By being so definite in your contradiction of their assertion that they “love you more,” you are expressing to them that you are so sure of your relationship that nothing could change your mind.
Everyone loves to hear that they are safe in their relationship, so this will not only make your partner laugh but will also reassure them that they can trust you.
15. Oh no, I don’t think you understand. Every morning I meticulously calculate the amount of love I feel for you so that it is just one percent more than you love me that day.
If you feel like getting into a funny conversation about the basis of your boyfriend or girlfriend’s assertion that they “love you more,” you could come up with an elaborate explanation for how you know that they are wrong.
This is a little silly, but it is sure to make them smile and light-heartedly fight back.
If you and your partner are always giving each other a hard time, why not send this funny message. See how they respond! Who knows, you could be in for some excellent jokes!
16. Well, we’re officially that incredibly cheesy couple. Congratulations, we made it!
If you can’t actually believe you are part of an exchange that involved saying, “I love you,” and “I love you more,” you could joke with your partner about how cheesy you two sound.
If they share your sense of humor, they will surely also find this funny.
There are only so many times in life that we realize we have become a stereotype of what we used to think adults were like. So, it is only fair to make the most of them when they do crop up!
How to respond to “I love you more” after a fight
Big statements about how much we love each other tend to be triggered by emotional events.
One thing that might cause you and your partner to tell each other just how much you love each other is the aftermath of a fight.
The most important thing to do after a fight is to say sorry.
Whether you apologize to your girlfriend over text or go to your boyfriend’s house to give him a proper “I’m sorry” hug, its key that you acknowledge the role you played in things going sour.
Once you have done this and once your partner has apologized in return, you will probably both want to tell each other just how much you care about each other, which might result in an exchange of “I love you” or even an “I love you more.”
Once this has happened, however, you might be at a loss for what to say next. But don’t worry, here are some excellent things to say in response to “I love you more” after a fight.
17. If you think that, you must underestimate how much I love you.
If there was ever a time to be sincere about your affection for someone, it is after you have just been shouting your head off at them about all their flaws.
Fights and arguments are never nice.
But if you have just been in one and feel the need to step back from some of the things you might have said that you only mean in anger, you should be as expressive as you can.
As long as you genuinely mean what you’re saying, then expressing the extent of your care for someone is only a good thing.
So, if you’ve just been arguing with your partner and they tell you that they love you more than them, you could respond seriously.
Tell them that they must underestimate how much you love them if they think that.
This is a sweet sentiment that is sure to ease the pain of some of the hurtful things you may have accidentally let slip out earlier.
18. Don’t ever doubt how I feel about you.
This is a sweet, sincere response to “I love you more,” that makes sense to say in the aftermath of an argument with your partner.
They will surely appreciate your loving words, especially if they are still feeling hurt.
19.Next time we argue, let’s just remember this moment and how much we care about each other.
While a lot of the examples of responses in this list take a light-hearted or banterous tone, there is a time for humor and then there is a time for sincerity.
After you have argued with your partner, you should focus on reassuring them that you feel deep love for them, not trying to make them laugh. Well, at least not yet.
Once they feel safe in your arms again, you can crack out the jokes to ease the mood.
This loving response not only expresses care, but it also tries to prevent the unfortunate situation you both just found yourselves in from being repeated.
What you’re saying is that, at baseline, you share a deep love, and that you shouldn’t let petty things get in the way of that.
20. I’m glad we’ve made up and can tell each other we love each other again, because it’s all I want to do.
This response to an “I love you more” received after a fight is a great blend of the funny and the sincere.
You are obviously not being serious that all you want to do in the whole world is tell your partner how much you love them, but you are expressing that that is your dominant emotion at the moment.
What you are saying is the same thing people say when they perch down on a beach and exclaim that they could sit there for the rest of their life.
Of course they couldn’t, but that is what they feel at the moment.
You’re simply letting your partner that all you want to do in that moment is tell them you love them.
And, by the way, don’t feel terrible about fighting. Even happy couples argue.
21. We’re so silly. I can’t believe we go from full-on fighting to this.
If you and your partner tend to go from exchanging exasperated, frustrated words to ones of deep love and affection, you may want to respond to their telling you that they “love you more” by making a joke about the contrasting ways you communicate.
They are also party to the same relationship and are familiar with your dynamic, so they will probably also find this funny.
Besides, almost everything seems funny in the aftermath of a fight because we are always just so relieved to have made up.
22. Well, we certainly feel a lot of emotions about each other, don’t we?
This is another response that adopts a humorous take on the intensity of your feelings about each other.
If you can go from feeling real frustration at each other to feeling inexpressibly deep love within an hour, this message is for you.
You’re in this together, so your partner will surely appreciate the joke.
23. I’m so glad we’re not arguing anymore. I hate fighting with you, it’s much better being loving.
If you are so emotionally drained from arguing with your partner that you don’t have it in you to even try to introduce a light-hearted tone to the conversation, why not just express exactly how you’re feeling.
If your predominant emotion is relief that the disagreement has ended, just say it how it is! Your partner will surely feel the same and agree with you.
How to respond to “I love you more” in a serious conversation
Well, so far, we’ve covered most of the bases for situations in which someone might tell you they love you more.
But there is one more popular time to tell those we love just how very deeply we feel about them.
This can often be in the middle of a serious conversation, in which both parties are trying to accurately capture the extent of their emotions for the other person.
In these cases, it might be best not take too light-hearted approach to respect that person you’re speaking to might actually want you to seriously hear what they have to say.
Here are a few ways you could approach someone telling you they “love you more” in a serious way.
24. Since day one, I’ve known we were meant to be.
To keep the tone sincere and respectful of your partner’s feelings, tell them that you’ve always known you belong together.
They will surely tell you they felt the same, and you can both rest easy in the knowledge that you’ve probably found the one.
25. You are more than the love of my life; you’re my soulmate.
This another appropriately serious response to send or say in the middle of a heart-to-heart conversation with someone you love.
Telling someone they are your soulmate is pretty much a commitment to be with them for life, so only say this if you really mean it from the bottom of your heart.
“You’re my soulmate” isn’t a pickup line, so be careful with the feelings of the person you’re talking to.
26. I really do wonder how I got so lucky. You’re one of a kind and I’m so grateful for you.
This heartfelt response will surely be appreciated by anyone who has just expressed their genuine care for someone.
Telling your partner that you think you are lucky to have them is sure to put a smile on their face. Telling them they are one of a kind may just make their head explode.
Again, these are meaningful words, so be careful who you say them too. You should really only say these sorts of things to someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
27. I swear, I thank my lucky stars every day that I walked into that bar when I did.
One good thing to reference when your partner tells you they “love you more” than you love them, is the day you first met.
By pointing out what an incredible coincidence it was that you met and bringing to their attention that if you hadn’t, you might not be together now, you will probably send chills up their spine.
This heightened emotion will sure make them feel just as grateful for your presence in their life as you feel for their presence in yours.
28. Well, we are the lucky few, aren’t we?
We always hear about all the people who settle in love and simply choose to accept the affections of someone who they don’t really want to spend the rest of their lives with.
Then, we also hear about “the lucky few” who are blessed to meet someone who truly makes them the happiest person in the world.
Telling your partner that you think you two are among “the lucky few” is an incredible vote of confidence in the relationship you share.
29. You have me till we run out of time, I’m telling you.
This is basically an engagement-level commitment, so take care when saying this to a loved one!
However, if this is truly how you feel, why not tell your partner where your head is at. Go all in on your love story.
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