When a guy calls you crazy, it is usually meant in one of three ways.
He could be trying to invalidate what you are saying to avoid having to deal with your concerns.
Or, he could be flirting with you and saying it as a compliment, meaning that you are wild, uninhibited, and passionate.
Finally, he could be trying to make you feel better by telling you that what you are worrying about is not worth your concern.
20 Ways to Respond When a Guy Calls You Crazy
- That’s a pretty insensitive thing to say, don’t you think?
- Stop trying to undermine me by calling me names.
- I feel like you’re trying to discredit me, and I don’t like it.
- If you’re going to be immature about this and invalidate my feelings, then this conversation is over.
- I’m not interested in a mud-slinging match. When you’re ready to have a mature conversation about this, let me know.
- That’s really hurtful. Please don’t speak to me like that.
- I don’t appreciate being called crazy. I’m raising valid concerns and you’re using name-calling to avoid having to talk about them.
- I really don’t like your tone. I’m trying to have a mature conversation about something important to me and you are not taking me seriously.
- Why are you trying to start a fight? I’m just trying to have a normal conversation.
- Takes one to know one, right? 😉
- I could say the same about you.
- Yeah, just your type, right?
- Yeah, and you love it.
- Yeah, crazy in looove.
- Nothing wrong with being a little unhinged…makes everything more exciting, don’t you think?
- And you wouldn’t have me any other way 😉
- Bonnie to your Clyde, right here.
- Aw, thanks for trying to make me feel better. Maybe I am being overly sensitive.
- Thanks, that’s super sweet. You’re making me feel much better.
- Thanks for comforting me and for listening to my problems.
Ways to respond when a guy calls you crazy if he is being offensive
If you can tell that a guy is calling you crazy because he is trying to avoid having to talk about what you are saying to him, then this is a huge red flag.
If you are raising an issue about your relationship that is important to you and he is brushing it off as you being “crazy,” it means he is not willing to take your feelings seriously.
By calling you crazy he is trying to shift the blame for the conflict onto you. Now, instead of his bad behavior being the cause of the argument, your craziness is the cause.
The most important thing to remember when a guy calls you crazy is not to respond in anger. If you do, he will consider his point proven. The best thing to do is to let him know calmly and maturely how his words are making you feel.
Here are a few ways you could do this.
1. That’s a pretty insensitive thing to say, don’t you think?
Don’t be afraid to tell a guy he is being insensitive. Calling someone crazy is not only offensive to the person you are name-calling, but it also perpetuates mental health stigma.
Let him know you would like him to rethink this word in his vocabulary.
Example:
A: Wow, you’re being so crazy right now. Calm down.
B: That’s a pretty insensitive thing to say, don’t you think?
2. Stop trying to undermine me by calling me names.
The best way to let a guy know you don’t think it is acceptable for him to call you crazy is to call him out on it right away.
If you let it slide a few times, he will begin to think that it is okay for him to speak to you like that.
Get straight to the point and be clear about the fact that you don’t find his name-calling acceptable.
Example:
A: Omg, you’re being crazy.
B: Stop trying to undermine me by calling me names.
3. I feel like you’re trying to discredit me, and I don’t like it.
If a guy calls you crazy, he is often saying it to try to discredit anything you say after that. If you are crazy, then what you are saying shouldn’t be taken seriously.
The best way to respond to this is simply to clearly tell him how you perceive his actions. By using “I feel” language, you are not accusing him of something, but are just letting him know how what he says is making you feel.
Example:
A: Seriously? You sound so crazy right now.
B: I feel like you’re trying to discredit me, and I don’t like it.
4. If you’re going to be immature about this and invalidate my feelings, then this conversation is over.
Don’t be afraid to take a hardline stance. By ending the conversation and refusing to engage with being called names, you are drawing a line in the sand.
The guy you are speaking to will realize that if he doesn’t respect your boundaries, he won’t get to speak to you.
Example:
A: You are so crazy. That’s not what happened at all.
B: If you’re going to be immature about this and invalidate my feelings, then this conversation is over.
5. I’m not interested in a mud-slinging match. When you’re ready to have a mature conversation about this, let me know.
Sometimes when a guy calls you crazy you think you need to convince him that you aren’t. Try to resist this urge. The best way to deal with being disrespected is to refuse to engage with the other person until they change their tone.
Keep the conversation on your terms. By telling a guy you aren’t interested in a mud-slinging match you are letting him know that if he wants to take to you, he will have to do so respectfully.
Example:
A: Stop being soooo crazy.
B: I’m not interested in a mud-slinging match. When you’re ready to have a mature conversation about this, let me know.
6. That’s really hurtful. Please don’t speak to me like that.
Letting a guy know his words are hurtful lets him know that what he says has consequences. Asking him not to speak to you like that sets a clear expectation about how he should be treating you.
Example:
A: Sorry, but now you’re just being crazy.
B: That’s really hurtful. Please don’t speak to me like that.
7. I don’t appreciate being called crazy. I’m raising valid concerns and you’re using name-calling to avoid having to talk about them.
One powerful way to nip a guy calling you crazy in the bud, is to call out exactly what he is doing. Let him know you don’t appreciate his language.
He is calling you crazy to avoid having to talk about the concerns you have, so let him know you’re on to him!
Example:
A: I’ve had it. You’re being crazy and I can’t engage with you when you’re being like this.
B: I don’t appreciate being called crazy. I’m raising valid concerns and you’re using name-calling to avoid having to talk about them.
8. I really don’t like your tone. I’m trying to have a mature conversation about something important to me and you are not taking me seriously.
Where possible, always take the high road. If a guy calls you crazy, tell him you don’t like his tone. Then politely express what you are trying to do and how his response is making you feel.
By telling him he isn’t taking you seriously, you are demanding that he give you more respect in the future.
Example:
A: I honestly can’t take it when you act crazy.
B: I really don’t like your tone. I’m trying to have a mature conversation about something important to me and you are not taking me seriously.
9. Why are you trying to start a fight? I’m just trying to have a normal conversation.
Keeping your tone cool, calm, and collected is the best way to show a guy you won’t take the bait of him calling you crazy.
Ask him why he is trying to create a problem and tell him you just want to have a normal conversation.
If you do this, he will have to stop calling you names and express himself more politely.
Example:
A: Seriously, you are being so crazy.
B: Why are you trying to start a fight? I’m just trying to have a normal conversation.
How to respond when a guy calls you crazy flirtatiously
Despite how it might sound at first, some guys will call you crazy to flirt with you. What they are trying to do is compliment how passionate, impulsive, fun-loving, and exciting you are.
If a guy flirtatiously calls you crazy, the best thing to do is to give back as good as you get. Show him you’re on his level by proving you can respond with a quick, witty quip!
10. Takes one to know one, right? 😉
By saying it “takes one to know one” you are implying that the reason he knows your crazy is because he is crazy himself.
This puts you one equal footing and establishes that you two are both up for doing fun things and having wild adventures together.
Example:
A: Oof, am I wrong in thinking you’re a little crazy?
B: Takes one to know one, right? 😉
11. I could say the same about you.
If a guy calls you crazy in a flirty way, call him crazy right back.
By saying, “I could say the same about you,” you aren’t denying that you are crazy, you’re simply saying that you think he might be too.
Since he’s calling you crazy as a compliment, he will also take it as a compliment when you call him crazy.
Example:
A: You seem kinda crazy and I kinda like it.
B: I could say the same about you.
12. Yeah, just your type, right?
In a flirty text exchange, it is important to keep the banter going. If a guy teases you, tease him back.
If he calls you crazy as a compliment, or in a flirtatious way, give it right back to him by telling him that you think “crazy” is his type.
Example:
A: Wow, you’re a bit crazy, aren’t you?
B: Yeah, just your type, right?
13. Yeah, and you love it.
Another way to keep the flirty banter going if a guy calls you crazy, is to tell him he loves that you’re crazy.
Not only are you giving a witty response, but you’re suggesting that he likes you, which is sure to keep the momentum of the conversation going.
Example:
A: I can tell you’re a bit crazy.
B: Yeah, and you love it.
14. Yeah, crazy in looove.
If your partner calls you crazy and you have already told each other you love one another, you could jokingly respond, “crazy in looove.”
This funny quip, which is also a way of expressing your affection, will be sure put a smile on his face.
Example:
A: Well, I’ve always known you were crazy
B: Yeah, crazy in looove.
15. Nothing wrong with being a little unhinged…makes everything more exciting, don’t you think?
Establishing a good rapport is an important part of building a relationship. Being able to joke around and tease each other is one of the best ways to establish emotional intimacy.
If a guy calls you crazy, respond by jokingly explaining the advantageous of being crazy.
Example:
A: Soo…you’re a bit crazy then.
B: Nothing wrong with being a little unhinged…makes everything more exciting, don’t you think?
16. And you wouldn’t have me any other way 😉
Another way to teasingly respond to being called crazy, is to suggest that the fact that you are crazy is precisely why the guy you’re speaking to likes you.
Example:
A: Well, after meeting you I can tell you’re just as crazy as I hoped you would be.
B: And you wouldn’t have me any other way 😉
17. Bonnie to your Clyde, right here.
When a guy calls you crazy as a compliment, what he really means is that he can see you being his partner in crime. He thinks you’re fun, adventurous, and exciting to be around.
So why not respond to being called crazy by suggesting that you are the Bonnie to his Clyde?
Example:
A: I feel like you’re the perfect kind of crazy.
B: Bonnie to your Clyde, right here.
How to respond when a guy calls you crazy to comfort you
If you are expressing your doubts about your ability or looks, or are worrying about something going wrong, it is possible that a guy will call you crazy to comfort you.
What he means is that you have nothing to worry about! You are talented and beautiful and the terrible thing you are concerned will happen is very unlikely to come to pass.
Take him calling you crazy the way it is intended and thank him for trying to make you feel better.
18. Aw, thanks for trying to make me feel better. Maybe I am being overly sensitive.
When someone has listened to your problems and made an effort to ease your mind, it is nice to let them know you appreciate it.
If a guy calls you crazy because he thinks you are worrying too much and don’t appreciate how wonderful you are, it is a good idea to thank him for trying to make you feel better.
By acknowledging that you may be being overly sensitive, you are also making him feel like he has gotten his point across.
Example:
A: I really don’t think you need to worry. You’ve done such an amazing job on the project and you’d be crazy to think otherwise.
B: Aw, thanks for trying to make me feel better. Maybe I am being overly sensitive.
19. Thanks, that’s super sweet. You’re making me feel much better.
If you say something disparaging about yourself and a guy tells you you’re crazy, he is telling you that he thinks the exact opposite.
Thank him for trying to boost your confidence and for improving your mood.
Example:
A: You’re crazy to think you look bad today. I can’t tell you how beautiful I thought you looked this morning.
B: Thanks, that’s super sweet. You’re making me feel much better.
20. Thanks for comforting me and for listening to my problems.
If a guy who loves you calls you crazy in order to boost your confidence or mood, thank him for comforting you and for listening to your problems.
No matter how much we love someone, it can get tedious listening to them complain or worry. So if a guy is comforting you, let him know you appreciate it.
Example:
A: You’re crazy if you think my mom doesn’t like you. I promise you, you have nothing to worry about. She compliments me about you all the time!
B: Thanks for comforting me and for listening to my problems.
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